It is my pleasure to introduce you to one of the smartest men I know. Jim Samuels is the author of two powerful yet deceptively short books that pack a real punch. I highly recommend them both. He has the enviable knack of being able to simplifying the most complicated concepts as he will show you.
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Personal Freedom by Jim Samuels, Ph.D.
Personal freedom is an ability that regulates your state of functional intelligence.
A lack of personal freedom can severely limit what you can think, artificially lowering your ability to think things through carefully and accurately. An increase in personal freedom won’t make you smarter. But, it will allow you to use more of the intelligence you possess.
Personal freedom is variable, and can be increased or decreased by awareness and realizations made within the privacy of your mind.
Even a small change in personal freedom can bring instant relief from stress, replacing it with a sense of wellbeing and confidence.
Personal freedom is mainly a private realization and acknowledgment. Often, all it takes to expand your personal freedom is the inclusion of freedom as an ingredient in your current thought process.
As an example, notice that at this moment you have some choices. You do not need to make these choices, simply notice that they are available to you.
You are free to discontinue reading, and free to continue reading.
You are free to disagree, and free to agree. Also, free to do neither.
Notice that you are free to continue to sit there. And, you are free to stand up.
Remember, the goal here is not to stress you with trying to choose what to do. The goal is simply to notice that you have these choices and experience the personal freedom that they bring.
What is a practical application of this technique? Let’s look at good habits and bad habits.
Think of a good habit you have. Notice that you are free to change that habit and free not to change that habit. You have that choice.
Now, think of a bad habit you have. Notice that you are free to continue with that same habit and free to change it into a better one. Again, don’t try to decide. Just notice that you have the choice.
Over the next few days, take a moment and notice that you are free to do things, and free to not do them. “I’m free to ______ and free not to _____.”
Start small and gradually work your way up to more challenging situations. The increased sense of choice, of personal freedom, can bring enormous relief in even the most difficult situations.