Change, Best Embraced
One of my favored themes in the Apron Strings trilogy is change. How do you feel about starting something new, different, and totally foreign? Do you race out with arms akimbo, the way Sallee once did, ready to embrace the thrill of the new? Or are you a little, shall I say reticent? Like Ethel or Ginny seem to be when faced with the whole idea of change? If you are afraid of change, you are certainly not alone. I’m a writer, so to me, each change is a turning page. It is about closing one chapter and opening another one. Changes bring new beginnings and excitement to life.
Even if you resist or avoid it, change will enter your life just the same. When you initiate the change yourself, it’s much easier to adapt to it, since it’s a wanted one. Like Sallee in Done Growed Up, I was certain that I was the type that embraced change, loved it in fact. I believed that I wouldn’t know how to operate without it. Change added zest to my life. “What? You don’t like the new, the different and challenging?” I heard myself scoff at the poor sod that made the mistake of stating his truth in my hearing. “Afraid of a challenge? What’s wrong with you?” I’d think dismissively.
Now I’ve changed – SEE, there it is again! Maybe, I’ve gotten a little less judgemental in my decrepitude: we can only hope. Or maybe I’ve just stopped fooling myself. Whether we like it or not, change happens every day, all day. I’ve discovered that life is much easier when I just accept it.
Stepping out into the unknown, i.e. change, is terrifying. It makes us aware for a moment that we don’t have a clue what’s coming down the pike no matter what sort of illusion we labor under. The thing is, we step out into the unknown all day long, we just have lulled ourselves into believing we know what’s coming. Pssssst…guess what? We don’t.
Below are just a few benefits of change:
1. Personal growth You grow and learn new things every time something changes. You discover new insights about different aspects of your life. You learn lessons even from changes that did not lead you to where you wanted to be.
2. Flexibility Frequent changes make you easily adapt to new situations, new environments, and new people. As a result, you do not freak out when something unexpectedly shifts.
3. Improvements We all have things in our lives we’d like to improve—finances, job, partner, house, etc. All of us know that nothing will improve by itself. We need to do things differently to make that happen. Without change, there’d be no improvements.
4. Strength Not all changes lead you to pleasant periods of life. Unfortunately, we do not live in a fairy tale and sad things happen, too. Overcoming life’s vicissitudes makes you stronger.
5. Routine Many people do the same things at the same time for years. They lead an utterly dull, extremely predictable, and uninteresting life. That is how your life would be without changes.
So next time you are tempted to avoid or resist the change, aim instead to initiate the ones that will lead you to where you want to be.
I blithely scribble, “Change happens, embrace it!” at book signings as if I did embrace it easily. Uh no! Please accept my apology if it seemed I didn’t appreciate the difficulty inherent in change. But, I’m still going to remind you to embrace change when I sign books. Because I believe, we all need the reminder. Bear in mind, though, it isn’t any easier for me than for you. As a matter of fact from where I stand, it might be easier for you.